Loneliness is one frequently mentioned cause of phone sex addiction. After ending the call, they regret their mistake when it becomes too late to do so. Being compulsive to call these phone sex lines they gradually get addicted to these lines. A guy, addicted to these phone sex lines says,
“Being male sucks, I’ve spent hundreds of dollars on strip clubs before, and have done the phone sex thing before too, but recently, I just can’t get away from that stuff, and it’s pricy too man, and money is tight on my end, but dang it, this sexual stuff is like a drug, and these women know it too, and they cash in on it literally”
Experts of Sex Addiction Rehab say, if left untreated sex addiction can lead to broken relationships, financial ruin, substance abuse, depression and even suicide in some cases. Sexual response is one of the most powerful triggers of feel-good chemicals known as endorphin in the brain system; this is the primary cause of sexual addiction.
Relationships are also broken because of this addiction. Most of the phone sex operators who were interviewed also said, “Phone sex is an emotional drain”. In mumsnet, Joanne, a mother of two children tells how her husband is addicted to these phone sex lines, which had let her down and made her suffer in life.
“Not sure what to do, my husband says he is addicted to sex lines and can’t stop calling them, running up huge debts”
“I am so hurt by him, and don’t even think we have a relationship anymore. I am so scared of becoming a single parent as don’t think I could cope. This is not the life I wanted for me and my children, but I don’t want them to have a broken family either”
But there are ways, if not to completely stop it at once, but to gradually reduce it. The main phone sex addiction treatment as suggested by the experts of sex addiction rehab is to remove access to phone sex services. There are also some support groups like Sex Addicts Anonymous in UK (SAA), which offers an accepting, non-threatening environment to share and help others to recover from sex addiction. There a group of women and men sharing their experiences on sex addiction.
A real time phone sex operator with experience for about 10 years, says,
“Sometimes men need an outlet that is more than what they feel comfortable with telling someone they love”
“On the flip side, I do not condone abuse nor do I support it whether it is mental, physical or emotional. I am not saying accept his behavior as ultimately you have to do what is right for you”
Cameryn* another phone sex operator says,
“I don’t think that sex of any sort can be an addiction. Someone can be neurotic or insecure or needing approval, but those are the underlying psychological problems, not the sex itself”.
“If someone is using phone sex a lot, and they were worried about the amount, then hopefully they would go to a psychologist who understands that distinction”.
There are many students who get easy access to these phone sex lines, and in a while without their knowledge, get addicted to these in a few days. Another good way to stop this addiction as suggested by experts is to switch off the phone, and to divert the mind.