The Parental Perspective

With every student working as a phone sex operator, there is a parent with their own perspective on their child’s choice of work… unless they have no knowledge of their money making scheme at all.
Online sites such as the Facebook group ‘PAWS’ which stands for ‘Parents against weird sex’ is completely opposed to anyone of any age participating in phone sex, but especially younger members of society. The site is utterly against phone sex and argues that phone sex is still working in the phone sex industry. Members of this Facebook group strongly argue that phone sex is a degrading and undignified way of making money. PAWS retains the argument that speaking to a stranger and engaging in erotic, highly sexual and explicit phone calls for money is a very demeaning profession, regardless of what phone sex workers say. There is a very varied public debate which can be found on their homepage where current part time and full time phone sex workers argue that they genuinely enjoy their work and still lead happy, healthy and strong relationships. PAWS is against any kind of sexual activity at all, with the exception of a married man and woman purely having sexual intercourse to reproduce. Phone sex is an act disagreed with by PAWS alongside a host of other ‘wrong’ acts, such as homosexuality, fetishes of all walks of life and even some sexual positions, such as ‘doggy-style’.
A second site which thoroughly discusses phone sex is the site ‘mums.net’ which is created for parents, by parents. Under the phone sex thread, heated debates continue here which exposes viewers to the multiple perspectives and viewpoints. One Mother writes:

”I didn’t know my daughter had been working as a phone sex operator until last year. She is 31 now and told me she had done it all throughout University, which would now explain why she didn’t ever seem to struggle with money or ask me to bail her out. She now works as a University History lecturer and has been in a happy relationship for the past ten years. Can’t have caused too much harm”.

This post prompted several questions from fellow parents who asked her how she felt when she found out. The Mother replied she was shocked and probably wouldn’t have understood and opposed her working as a phone sex operator if she had known at the time.

”I still don’t like the idea of my daughter doing that, speaking to strange men down the phone. But students are still consenting adults and it is pretty risk-free”.

Arguments at the opposite end of the spectrum, insist it is disgusting and only unfit parents would condemn this. A common factor for students resorting to phone sex according to the mums.net site, appears to be the sky high University fees. The skeletal living costs are thought to be the primary causes to blame, followed by bad parenting and thirdly by the Media and programmes such as Channel 4, which have been described on the site as ‘championing and glamorising the job’.
I spoke to the parent of current phone sex worker Amanda* on what she thought of her daughter’s part time job as a phone sex operator.

”I found out by mistake. I over-heard her on the phone once and was confused as she didn’t have a boyfriend I knew of. I happened to over-hear a second conversation and became suspicious as she would disappear on the phone for hours at a time and became very secretive. When I confronted her, she spilled the beans on everything. I was mortified and she ended up moving out it resulted in such a huge row. I have tried to reconcile and rebuild our relationship, but I still maintain that what she is doing is wrong. University fees are no excuse; there are plenty of part time jobs and call centre vacancies students can opt for”.

I asked the mother of Amanda* why she thought her daughter had become a phone sex operator in the first place and if she believed Amanda* would continue down this line of work on completion of University.

”I now know a few of her friends were working as phone sex operators before her, so she has obviously followed suit! They probably all think it’s one big laugh but they must feel so dirty and know it is wrong. I sincerely hope she doesn’t continue with this ridiculous job when she finishes University; she is a very bright young woman who has more to offer and more to become then just some silly phone sex worker”.

The debates continues online on these sites which act as informative platforms students, parents, youth workers or anyone else interested in phone sex to visit to gain a snap shot insight into the contrasting polar opposite stances, experiences and view points people have on working as a phone sex operator.

http://www.facebook.com/ParentsAgainstWeirdSex

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/a1427001-My-Phone-Sex-Secrets

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